You have come this far and are on the precipice of diving. The decision is going to make or break your life for good because you will have to live with it.
Make sure that you have covered base and are sure of the person with whom you have decided to share the rest of your life. I am an overthinker, and I think a lot before I do something or say something to someone. I’m sure most people do the same, but what good is it for if it is not put to some better use?
Here is a list of things that you should actually think before you take that big leap of faith and get into a relationship.
Don’t hesitate to explore your fears or express doubts. Be absolutely open. Be it past relations, income, family, friends physical or emotional aspects, inclinations, preferences, and anything else you feel you need to know, just go ahead and talk about it. Everything under the sun, right from money matters, to career paths, to the place of stay, family bonds, ideational and emotional issues, just about everything has to be discussed.
Often, you end up not asking because you like to presume certain aspects of the person and delude ourselves into believing that all is fine because you don’t want the relationship to end.
Spend time together talking about mutual or individual goals, views about mundane and not so mundane issues. Take up a topic and go all out to air, out your views and get his/her views or opinions. You want to avoid discovering things later and regretting, “I wish I knew.”
Entertainment is necessary but only after sorting everything between each other.
Going to movies, parties, wine and dine evenings and posting pictures on social media may be exciting but that is not going to help. In fact, the pressure of flaunting yourself as a couple will come in the way of getting to know each other better.
Don’t jump the bandwagon and become popcorn munching and soft drink consuming crowd at the movies. Watching movies together hand in hand is certainly romantic but will not help to solve existential issues. Do that while you want to but also do spend time walking and talking together.
Don’t become ‘Cell-fish’.
Appreciate, acknowledge, accept the facts that you know about each other and be completely honest. You would like to welcome the other person into your life with his/her past, shortcomings and all other attributes that are either positive or negative. Just make sure you both know clearly what each one is about and where and how you would like the relationship to shape or go forward.
Don’t expect the other person to be like you.
Take some time out to think for yourself.
If the other person cares and wants to commit to a long-term relationship s/he will and should be more than willing to dispel your concerns.
It is crucial to get over your ex.
Money should be discussed on a prior basis.
Maintain relationship with friends and family too.